How She Chooses(TM) Works
She Chooses helps women identify their feelings, thoughts, and needs, offers them an array of choices to make to meet those needs - including choices made by other women, listed in rank order by Appreciation Rating - ultimately leaving the final choice to the user. She can then share those choices - and whatever else she chooses - with whomever she chooses.
She Chooses is based on the principle that universal feelings and thoughts exist among women, that awareness of these feelings and thoughts gives women more power to make meaningful choices, and that sharing in community deepens that power.
She Chooses has two major components: "Feel. Think. Choose." and the She Chooses Social Network.
Feel. Think. Choose.
"What was I thinking?!" many women ask, having reacted to a situation and made a choice that they now wish had been a different choice.
Making a choice that's a response, rather than a quick reaction, that's in line with a woman's personal truth can begin simply with a pause to reflect. Answering not only "What am I thinking? " but also "What am I feeling? " enables a woman to consider choices aligned with her highest good.
"Feel. Think. Choose." fosters just that process. From a computer or a mobile device, wherever a woman is, whenever she chooses - whether it's in the middle of a meeting or the middle of the night - a woman can use "Feel. Think. Choose." to pause and reflect. "What am I feeling?" "What am I thinking?" "What are my choices?" "What do I choose?"
On the She Chooses blog, we've written more about Feel. Think. Choose.
She Chooses Social Network
Once they've identified what they feel and think, women may ask, "What have other women chosen in the same situation?" Sometimes a friend, a sister, a colleague, or a mentor just isn't available at a time when a woman most needs to ask, "What did you do?"
She Chooses users can choose to share their feelings, needs, and choices with other She Chooses users. That means a user can view the choices of other women as a buffet line of possibility. A user can select from among the choices of other users, or make her own choice. She can "confer" with other women by using the application, but ultimately she has the power to make her own choice.
Women often use communication with other women to discover what they feel and think. She Chooses offers women the opportunity to express themselves in the way they choose to their choice of audiences:
Me - A member shares updates only with herself and uses She Chooses as a personal journal.
Friends - A member chooses with whom she is Friends on She Chooses. Friends are those on She Chooses who can view a user's updates and those whose updates she can view.
Everyone - The online public. Anyone and everyone who can access a computer or mobile device can see these updates.
In addition to choosing with whom to share updates, users can choose the type of expression they're sharing - a straightforward Update, a Question to ask of other users, and Wisdom they find of personal value and that may prove of value to others as well. Users can respond to other users updates through a private messaging system within She Chooses.
Women who like to confer with other women about their possible choices before they make decisions can use Feel. Think. Choose. to see what other women have chosen and see what other women have thought about those choices through their Appreciation Ratings. They can use all this information as indirect advice or ask for advice directly using the Question feature of She Chooses. And having paused to feel, then think, then choose, they will have given themselves time to have made a choice that seems emotionally sound, well-reasoned, and not made alone.
When a user sees the list of choices made by other women, she may ask, "I don't know these women. How reliable are their choices?" Other users help a woman know.
When a user views an update with a choice made by another user and finds that user's choice particularly insightful, she can appreciate the user by giving her an Appreciation Rating. A user's overall Appreciation Rating can be viewed on her profile page. Appreciation Ratings are given to users who communicate in their updates how they feel deeply, think seriously, and make meaningful choices based on awareness of their feelings and thoughts.
The integrity and safety of the She Chooses community is dependent upon the integrity of its members and the respect they show each other. If a user's choices on She Chooses are questionable, She Chooses members are asked to use the "Report Abuse" link at bottom of the user's profile page.
On the She Chooses blog, we've written more about Expressing Appreciation.
Welcome to She Chooses!
In sum, "Feel. Think. Choose." is used within the context of the She Chooses social network, a place for women to share their experiences, who they are, what they feel, think, and need, and the choices they have made. She Chooses users can learn and grow, and create and benefit from the collective insight, experience and wisdom of women.
The more generously, authentically, genuinely, empathetically and thoughtfully a woman shares on She Chooses, the more value she gives and receives from She Chooses and its users.